3 Reasons Ambitious, Intuitive Women Are Going Sober By Choice

I talk to a lot of successful, ambitious, intelligent, intuitive women who are curious about living an alcohol-free life and there is one thing that nearly all of them have in common: They are outwardly successful, but on the inside they feel stuck and unfulfilled.

However, admitting the truth about the feeling of stagnation and lack of fulfillment out loud makes them feel selfish. They wonder, shouldn’t I just be happy?

At the end of the day they reckon with this sense of dissonance in the same way: With a cocktail or glass of wine.

By the time these women find me, they’re tired of feeling stuck on this repetitive cycle of drinking to drown out their dissatisfaction (not to mention their shared experience of overwhelm and anxiety). These women know they don’t have a problem with alcohol, yet they hesitate to go alcohol-free even though the sense that - ultimately - alcohol is keeping them stuck.

If you’ve felt trapped in the same experience - trust me - you’re not alone.

Many successful, ambitious, intelligent women struggle with their relationship with alcohol, and it holds them back from reaching their potential.

After years of supporting women who have reached the breaking point with feeling like alcohol is keeping them stuck, I’ve identified 3 reasons ambitious, intuitive women are going sober by choice - let’s see if you can relate to any of these:

They don’t like the way alcohol makes them feel. 

Sure, there’s those fleeting moments of euphoria and numbness. Perhaps even a few hours of mental reprieve. But, at the end of the day, my clients are tired of feeling listless, moody, anxious, foggy, and on edge after drinking.

My clients all share that they’re afraid of how they’ll unwind or work through tough emotions without alcohol there to support them, but ultimately, the cons of feeling gross and agitated outweigh the pros.

Although ditching booze won’t mean instant euphoric feelings, over time, you will begin to feel better and more capable. Yes, this will require you to find different ways to cope with stress, anxiety and overwhelm, but if you’re willing to do the work, your body and mind will respond.

They’re tired of putting in the work and seeing minimal results.

Most of my clients are committed to taking care of themselves. They’re eating well, working out, going to therapy, and implementing some sort of spiritual practices.

And yet, they feel like they’re constantly taking two steps forward and three steps back or that the work they’re putting in isn’t really paying off.

The reality is: Alcohol stunts your growth in nearly every way. Emotionally, physically, spiritually; you name it. Alcohol changes your brain; particularly the way you handle adversity. Alcohol requires tremendous physical effort to process - effort that distracts your body from healing, burning fat, and building muscle. Spiritually, alcohol dilutes your connection to your intuition and any higher power you might be seeking to connect with.

If you want all of the work you’ve been putting into your physical, mental, and spiritual wellbeing to rapidly multiply; one of the most effective practices will be to stop drinking alcohol.

They feel like alcohol is blocking their ability to dream and achieve their dreams.

Alcohol clouds clarity. It causes you to dream small and drinkers often find themselves pursuing dreams that are societally approved, but not their actual dreams.

Because these women are go-getters, they’ve managed to have tangible success in life, only to feel underwhelmed with the results.

The problem is, they don’t know what they want to want and with alcohol constantly clouding their perception, it’s difficult to think clearly. The common theme is: These women know they want more. They know they are meant for more. And, they sense that alcohol is somehow getting in the way.

If you can relate to these three experiences, you’re in the right place. I’m here to support ambitious, intuitive women go from sober curious to alcohol-free. If you’re a casual/social drinker who is feeling stuck in your life, relationships and career and you’ve started to sense that your relationship with alcohol might be part of the problem, check out the resources below to step into your sober serious journey.